How Resilient Are You?
- paulakbronte
- Sep 17
- 4 min read
In my nearly 30 years of practice in Rapid Eye Technology (RET), I have noticed how some people can weather storms that would simply demolish most people.
I have also worked with individuals who get blown over by the softest breeze.
I believe trauma, especially complex trauma or long term trauma, can erode our capacity to weather the storms.
However, developing and strengthening resiliency can make us more solid and able to meet life's challenges with greater ease and grace.
This is one of the reasons I am so adamant about my clients using simple RET tools.
These tools help to move us into and keep us in the eye of the storm.
When that happens, things are simply easier to manage.
Something that was once overwhelming becomes something you can handle while staying balanced.
The good news is that we can build the inner resources needed to handle challenges and bounce back!
Rapid Eye Technology is a highly effective method for developing this inner strength.
RET sessions change your brain so you can organically change your life!
In addition, a great RET tool to help build our bounce-back muscles is Lateral Eye Movement.
This is so simple that people sometimes discount how profound this exercise is for our day to day perceptions and reactions.
If you are familiar with the Quick Release tool that uses Lateral Eye Movement, this is your reminder to do it every day.
If you're not familiar with it, here are the simple instructions:
Track eyes left and right (try not to blink in between, but if you do it's totally fine)
When your eyes feel like they need to blink, then SQUEEZE eyes open and shut 3 times.
Then take 3 deep breaths: in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Open your mouth and really get it out.
Do this every day to train the brain.
Do it when you wake up or go to sleep.
Put sticky notes in front of the toilet and do it then, on your dashboard for red lights, on your TV and computer.
Create the habit of building it into your day. This will prevent the triggers and escalations from being so big or even stop them completely.
Also do this when you are upset or triggered. For instance, you're having an argument with your child or husband. Go to the bathroom and do the Quick Release until you calm down. It will only take about 3 or 4 rounds of the Quick Release to feel better.
The sooner you do this the better... It's easier to do this when you are upset at a 5 on a scale of 10, rather than when you are at a 10.
More to help understand and build resiliency:
Resiliency isn’t something people are just born with - it’s built, strengthened, and maintained over time. Think of it as developing emotional “muscle memory” that helps you recover when life throws challenges your way. Here are some key ways to develop resiliency:
1. Strengthen Your Inner World
Self-awareness: Notice your thoughts, emotions, and stress patterns without judgment. Awareness is the first step to shifting them.
Reframe challenges: Instead of “Why me?” try “What can I learn here?” or “How can this grow me?”
Emotional regulation: Practice calming techniques like deep breathing, mindfulness, or Rapid Eye Technology to release stress and reset.
2. Build Supportive Connections
Relationships as anchors: Surround yourself with people who uplift, encourage, and challenge you to grow.
Ask for help: Resilient people don’t try to go it alone - they reach out when needed.
Give back: Supporting others also strengthens your own sense of purpose and capability.
3. Develop Healthy Coping Strategies
Physical health: Sleep, movement, and nutrition create the foundation for mental/emotional strength.
Stress outlets: Journaling, exercise, meditation, or creative outlets help release tension in constructive ways.
Avoid numbing: Be mindful of coping mechanisms that temporarily relieve pain (i.e., overeating, substance use) but weaken resilience in the long-term.
4. Foster a Growth Mindset
See setbacks as feedback: Every obstacle carries a lesson or a skill to gain.
Celebrate small wins: Build confidence by noticing progress, not just end results.
Stay flexible: Adaptation is key. Rigidity often makes stress worse.
5. Strengthen Meaning & Purpose
Values alignment: Live according to your deepest values, not just circumstances.
Purpose-driven living: Having something bigger than yourself to work toward makes challenges more manageable.
Spiritual practices: Faith, meditation, or personal rituals often give strength beyond logic.
Just a quick note to let you know I have FINALLY surrendered.
I now have an active IG page.
Funny, not too long ago I asked someone "what's IG"? That tells you a lot! :)
So... My page is Paula K Bronte at https://www.instagram.com/paulakbronte/.
You're welcome to take a look, share and help me grow.
I hope you find the information helpful and inspiring!
Enjoy the Fall Equinox on September 22 that signifies a moment of balance where light and dark meet in harmony. This is a great opportunity for reflection, reminding us to find balance within ourselves.
Blessings!
Paula
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